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Getting married? You may want to Scrum Your Wedding!


Getting married? You may want to Scrum Your Wedding!

I am thrilled to announce the launch of the Scrum Your Wedding Guide, a free resource for couples planning DIY-style weddings.

Last year my uber-talented friend Julia and I set out to prove that it’s possible to plan a wedding without stress, even a highly creative and elaborate wedding with lots of personal touches. We’re both big believers in the “Scrum” process (Scrum is a popular methodology used in software development), and we wanted to use it as a framework for stress-free wedding planning.

If you or someone you love is planning a wedding, this free Guide can help you save money, time, and your sanity.

It’s not a wedding planning guide—there are no wedding dress image galleries, calligraphy tutorials, or flower arrangement tips. Those things are readily available on the Internet, and we know you know how to find them.

Instead this Guide lays out a simple process for:

  • establishing wedding planning roles (knowing who's in charge of what can keep your relationships with family, friends, and your partner in tact)
  • creating tools to visualize your progress (seeing how much you've accomplished keeps you motivated and excited for your big day)
  • setting up some "rituals" (putting a series of wedding planning meetings on your calendar ensures you stay on top of all the details, and, more importantly, allows you to have a life outside of wedding planning)

Who is Scrum Your Wedding for?

SYW is for you and your partner if:

  • you're planning a wedding with lots of DIY touches
  • you want your wedding to reflect who you are (not in a douchey way like this fake couple), but you're worried that the stress of planning might get to you
  • you know nothing is worth the stress of fighting with each other, feeling resentful toward your friends and family, or going bonkers over your budget
  • you nerd out about organizing and planning (or if that describes just one of you—the SYW Roles make it perfect for couples who "shine" in different ways)
  • you also have other priorities that you need to attend to—you can't just drop everything else in your life!

Win Free Coaching

The entire Guide is available for free at To celebrate the launch, we’re offering free Scrum Your Wedding coaching to one lucky couple.

The winning pair will receive up to five one-hour consulting sessions with Julia and me. We’ll walk through the steps of “installing” Scrum for your particular situation, and help guide you every step of the way, so you have the smoothest possible wedding planning experience.

(In case you’re wondering about credentials, I’m a certified Scrum Master—that’s a real thing—and I’m so very excited to combine my love of project management with my love of rad weddings.)

Enter to win the free coaching sessions by midnight ET on February 15th



Wedding How-To: Create a muppet Save-the-Date video


Wedding How-To: Create a muppet Save-the-Date video

This is the second in a summer series on unusual wedding how-tos. In this post, our good friend Celeste Hamilton Dennis shares how she and her husband made what we consider the greatest Save the Date card of all time—a video featuring muppet versions of themselves. 

It started as a joke, really. A muppet version of myself to give to my nieces while I was living in Buenos Aires, so we could still play together despite the vast distance between us.

Then it came in the mail on one of our rare trips back home to the States and my husband Craig and I got a kick out of its blue skin, its felt glasses, its tiny hoodie. It was me but not really me and we’d use it to diffuse whatever fight we were having at the moment or make stupid wisecracks when we were feeling silly. So we kept it. (Sorry, girls!)

We got engaged soon after the muppet arrived. Bored of traditional photos of couples holding hands on train tracks or kissing on the beach,  we brought up the idea of using the me-but-not-me for a photo shoot that could be used as a wedding invite. Again, a joke.

One thing was missing: a muppet of Craig. A crafty friend said “I could make him.” And so she did. Our Save the Date video was thus born.

So if you get a giddy feeling every time you hear “Mahna Mahna” and have incredibly creative friends who are willing to lend you their time, skills, and energy to make a similar video, here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Your method of muppet creation ultimately depends on how much work you want to do.

If you have some money to spare and want to make this easier, you can create your customizable muppet at FAO Schwarz. If you want to give it a go yourself (or have a friend who instinctively knows that burlap would make great muppet hair),  there are a ton of online muppet tutorials from sites like Instructables and DIY. Jim Henson even has a guide.

2. The more ordinary places you can photograph your muppets in, the better...

Once our mini mes were made, we grabbed a few willing friends who could be puppeteers for a day and went to an ice cream shop, park, antique market, choripan food cart—anywhere you’d normally find Craig and me exploring. The best part were people’s reactions, which were always the same: confusion, then laughter. The muppets turned out to be great conversation starters.

3...but know your limitations.

Muppets can’t ride motorcycles, and bridges make it really obvious that human hands are controlling the action. Ice cream melts quick.

4. Be deliberate about what you want your video to achieve.

We asked our artsy web designer friend to put the photos all together (he used a combo of QuickTime Pro and iMovie) to whimsical music that matched the mood and purpose. We included outtakes because, well, we just got a kick out of seeing our giant friend Scott holding a tiny version of Craig in the palm of his hand. That, and we wanted to thank our friends and family who gave up their weekend to help us.

5. Give into the fact that muppets are going to become your thing.

We didn’t start out being muppet people. But we quickly became them. Our Save the Date muppets were guests at our wedding (obviously) and were the inspiration for our cupcake toppers. They now sit on our bookshelf in our living room. And we’re not done. There’s still one of our toddler daughter we’re itching to create, and one of our new baby who will arrive in October. Once you go muppet, you never go back I guess.

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Wedding How-To: Plan a bike-around-town cake tasting

This is the first in a summer series on unusual wedding how-tos. The first part in the series is a guest post by Amanda Stolnacke, a good friend of Everybody’s Invited!, who just so happens to be getting married in about a month, and can frequently be seen around town on her bicycle, sometimes with cupcakes in tow. 

Let’s all just go ahead and agree that weddings are incredible because there is cake. Yes, cake (or some other equally delicious dessert) will be delicately arranged on a dainty platter or served to you on a fancy plate. What could be better? Well, getting to choose which cake appears at your wedding might {wait for it}… take the cake. You may be asking yourself how you can have a cake tasting adventure of your own. Follow these steps and you will be on your way!



Step 1) Research bakeries where you want to sample cake. Yelp is a great resource to read reviews. You can always ask your friends what their favorite bakery is! Don’t forget about grocery stores like Whole Foods or New Seasons.

Step 2) Make appointments at the bakeries you choose to visit. Some places don’t offer appointments so you can visit those bakeries if you have time and buy a few cupcakes to try. You may need to pay in advance for some tastings.

Step 3) Use Google maps engine to create a custom map of the bakeries you plan to visit by searching for each bakery and clicking “add to map.” You can also add biking directions to the map as a separate layer.


  • Bikes and helmets
  • Picnic blanket
  • Plates
  • Napkins
  • Knife
  • Beverage (sparkling water, wine, or more coffee)
  • Camera
  • Notebook or phone for recording tasting notes

Step 4) Begin the adventure! Gather your trusted friends and their bikes and let’s get to it! May I suggest we begin with morning cocktails? You may find your coffee has been spiked with Bailey’s and heavy whipping cream {not guilty}. It’s probably a good idea to eat a high protein breakfast to compensate for all the sugar you are about to consume. I love something like eggs and bacon or Greek yogurt with fruit. Time to boogie!

Step 5) Collect your cake samples from each bakery on your map.

Baked goods + bikes. Thumbs up!

Baked goods + bikes. Thumbs up!

Step 6) Make a picnic! Choose a park close to your last bakery location and unfurl your picnic blanket. Set up the cupcakes, plates and napkins. Take a picture of each group of cupcakes before diving in.

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Step 7) Taste the cakes and take notes on the flavor and texture of the samples. Which cakes are your favorite? Do you like the frosting? Compare your notes with your friends to get a good idea of something that your guests will love.

Almost all gone!

Almost all gone!

Thanks, Amanda, for these awesome tips for a cake tasting on bicycle! We heart this delicious, earth-friendly idea.  - Hannah, Tara, and Chris



An Everybody’s Invited Wedding: Play, Surprise, and Adventure

Back in April, Tara shared some details about my wedding on this blog, and now I’m finally ready to follow up with some more photos and to share a bit about the thinking that went into it.

Like most couples, my husband and I knew we wanted the wedding to reflect some of our core values and our shared interests. And like me, my husband is really into play, surprise, and adventure, so we were able to group a lot of our ideas into those buckets.


This was easy. We had a game room and used the opportunity to grow our game collection a bit. We knew we needed games with a low barrier to entry—no one was going to sit around and parse the rules to Settlers of Catan, but anyone can jump into a game of Jenga.


My husband and I spent about 30 hours making the word PLAY out of LEGO letters. It was a multi-step process—sourcing the LEGOs (we spent hours picking through bins of random bricks), washing them, determining the color pattern (we tried at least three different patterns), and finally designing our font and figuring out how to construct the letters in such a way that they wouldn’t be so top-heavy that they’d fall over (the P was particularly problematic).

 We love puzzles, so we made sure there were puzzles at every table, like this sudoku cube:

And we gave tangram puzzles as our favors. My mother-in-law and her partner made them, and they are awesome.


We wanted an unusual unity ceremony, and we also knew we wanted it to be science-y. There’s an obvious connection between the “chemistry” a couple has and actual chemistry. So we purchased 50 glowsticks, cut them open, and separated out the two liquids inside. There’s a colored liquid contained within a vial in each glowstick, and a clear liquid surrounding the vial. When mixed together, they glow. Science/Love! We hope the effect was a fun surprise for our guests.

From the beginning, we wanted a BIG surprise at some point during the evening, and we spent hours hashing out crazy ideas, but nothing stuck for a long time. About two weeks before the wedding, we finally hit upon an idea that we thought might work. The catch was it would involve the talents and goodwill of three of our friends.

Luckily, Eric, Chad and Trish were totally game. After dinner, Eric stood up and pretended to interrupt the toasts. He set up a rather far-fetched premise involving evil overlords from the future, time travel, and the fact that this wedding was somehow critical to the future of humanity. Eric hammed it up and had the rest of the guests laughing and cheering.

We played along:

After we’d managed to “save” the future (I won’t go into details about how, but it involved invisible ink pens), our friend Chad surprised everyone again by standing up and claiming the crisis wasn’t actually averted.

Again, my husband and I played our part:

This time, we all had to take photos with plastic mustaches in order to save the world.


Finally, Trish stood up to set up one last surprise…

We’d planned from the beginning to surprise our guests with a sudden costume change and a well-rehearsed tango, choreographed by the incredible Sydney Weir, formerly of Fred Astaire Dance Studio in Portland. Once we thought of the time travel skit idea, we had a way to raise the stakes on the dance. Now, we weren’t just dancing to celebrate our wedding, we were dancing…to save the world.

We did it!

I’d been really nervous about the time travel skit idea. I thought it had the potential to flop. But I should have known that Eric, Chad, and Trish had the chops to pull it off. Looking back, this was absolutely, hands down the highlight of the wedding for me. I love that we had this chance to improv with our friends, surprise our guests, and take a risk (play, surprise, and adventure – all in one!), and I LOVE our friends for being so amazing, creative, funny, and totally up for anything.


We haven’t planned a honeymoon yet, so we thought it would be fun to crowdsource our plans. We put up a map of the world and let people pin places they think we ought to travel.

New Zealand and Hawaii were popular choices, and I was pleased to see Antarctica got a vote (the ultimate adventure!)

The day after the wedding, we planned a few adventures for people who were sticking around. We went on a chocolate factory tour (adventure + learning!) and we went kite-flying at Gasworks park. I don’t have any pictures from that day, but I do have this picture from the same kite-flying spot, taken the day before.

A lot of the adventure came in the form of experimenting with props in the photo booth:


And, of course, there were adventures to be had on the dance floor:


It was, obviously, an incredible day for me. I am so grateful to my friends and family, and of course my wonderful husband, for helping to make it happen and for sharing it with me.

Let us know if we can help inject some play, surprise, and adventure into your special day.


All photos by the uber-talented Vera and Vedada of Urban Light Studios



Congratulations, Hannah & Chris!

It takes two to tango! Chris and Hannah performed a choreographed tango for the couple’s first dance.

It takes two to tango! Chris and Hannah performed a choreographed tango for the couple’s first dance.

This past weekend, our very own Hannah got married to her perfect partner, Chris! In addition to being a truly epic, detailed, and perfectly-planned event, it was the most heartfelt, sincere, and personalized wedding I’ve ever had the pleasure of attending. It was so very them.

Here are just a few of the awesome details:

- A quirky and cool venue that included a tiki bar, giant taxidermy lion, and a game room featuring the couple’s own game collection.

- An incredibly sweet ceremony officiated by one of their best friends and MC-ed by Chris of Everybody’s Invited! There was also a ceremonial science-y “joining of the chemicals,” which resulted in one glowing red beaker.

- Beautiful, DIY details, like marquee signs (which I thought they bought, but it turns out Hannah made them!) and personalized tangram wedding favors.

- Gorgeous centerpieces with beautiful flowers in eclectic vases, tall gold candlesticks, and little details like origami and assorted Rubik’s Cubes.

- A photobooth with lightsabers!

- A delicious Mexican food dinner, equally amazing desserts, and a tasty signature cocktail.

- A sultry, choreographed tango for the couple’s first dance (photo above). Followed by a dance floor packed with family and friends busting a move to a mix of new and old-school hits.

And so much more! Hannah, I hope you share photos and details of the wedding on this blog because everything was SO GOOD and so inspiring.

We are so incredibly happy for you, Hannah and Chris! Your love is so beautiful. Here’s to many years and many adventures together!

P.S. My phone was messed up, so the only photo I managed to snap was the above one of the gorgeous bride getting ready to tango! Please pretend it’s not fuzzy.